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A lot of people have been asking why I started a reference ribbon project when reference are so commonplace in the United States.  Well, first that’s not really true but it’s also not related!  The reason for the reference ribbon campaign starting was twofold.

I was living in Vancouver at the time where screening is a lot less prominent (and for many, non-existent) due to the legality of the profession¹.  As you can imagine it makes the safety issue significantly higher.  Unfortunately some clients are accustomed to have to provide little to no information, and despite the safety issues, are resistent to screening mostly citing privacy. Being from the US, I was accustomed to screening and still wanted to while in Canada.  My screening options there was considered by some on message boards as “ridiculous”².

One of the screening methods I offered that seemed to be a nice middle ground however, was references.  In Vancouver it was more of a “community” with several forums where providers and hobbyists mingled [[While we have that here in the US, I've never seen any as tight knit and laid back]].  The problem with references actually, were a few of the women.  They didn’t want to “share clients”, or they got outright jealous.  I thought that was downright childish, and made that public knowledge.  I wanted the other ladies in our community to know that they never had to afraid to ask me for a reference, even if some providers weren’t so friendly.  I decided maybe some kind of “ribbon” would be the way to go and went to work.  While working on it, the second reason came to light, and is a lot more somber.  Two providers died mysteriously (less than six months apart) and both cases are unsolved³.  This hit home for a lot of hobbyists and providers, as the first was known well by a few.  It was then I uploaded my little one page site and banner, and launched the campaign.

I started to see the ribbon pop up on sites all over, women all over the US and Canada I had never heard of.  I had wanted to expand it and create a listing sooner, but the time just wasn’t there.  I have finally done that – and while it’s nothing fancy at least it’s growing!  I am shocked, pleased, and touched that my little campaign has reached so far and I hope that it continues to grow and help women stay safe.

1. more grey area, less cared about by police – victimless crime, bigger fish to fry, etc al [↩]
2. though most were fine with it and I never had any in person complaints – I was actually quite successful there and still have demand that makes me want to go back and that’s another entry! [↩]
3. I am not at all saying they were murdered by clients, but the possibility is there and a very sobering thought [↩]

I like answering questions so I’ll be super geek and format this Q&A style!

1.  Where the hell have you been and what happened to your blog?
Great question!  2011 has been a busy year.  January was an interesting start with oral surgery where I lost 5 (not very important) teeth.  After that I lost 2 roommates and had to adjust from living in a house full of friends to just one roommate and the cats the others left behind (thanks guys!).  I am still working and writing!  My phone and ipad are full of notes I make for this blog.  I would love to write some things for ladies new to the industry, some general thoughts on ‘activist’ topics, stuff on travel, things for the men…there’s just not enough time in the day.

As far as what specifically happened to the blog, it fell to the wayside with all of the life changes.  As it’s fall I’ll probably have time to put down at least some of these ideas I’ve had for months.  Here’s hoping!

2.  I’m a potential client, what should I expect to find here?
I swear more than I probably should.  Honestly though, it’s my blog about many things related to sex.  If you’re blushing at the word fuck maybe you are in the wrong place .  Oh, you’ll also find my thoughts on a variety of topics related to escorting, some FAQ type deals, and maybe a how-to guide every now and again!

3.  Why don’t you link this blog on your site?
While I don’t hide my site on here or vice versa, I don’t find it necessary to directly link the two on my professional site.  My email signature has a link to it, that’s more than enough for me.  And on that note

4. I want to book a visit with you
missy-mariposa.com – by all means

I love questions. I will always answer a good one, that’s for sure.  However, I’m not a fan of spamming everyone’s twitter feed so several months ago I put up a Formspring and let it accumulate tons of questions and figured that one day I’d make a blog post about it.  I’ve taken the best of the best, the ones that made me laugh or smile, and ones that really made me think.  They are on every subject and it was really hard to narrow it down.  Thanks to all of y’all that made this happen.

Do you douche? Regularly?
Fuck no.  That stuff is HORRIBLE for your vagina.  pH balance anyone?  It’s like a pool!

What’s your opinion on gay/lesbian marriage?
Has no effect on my personal life.  Would not affect my (non-existent) marriage in any way, shape, or form.  If your marriage is so insecure that 2 dudes getting married affects it in any way, you need to take a step back and question WHY.

Want to get me started on sanctity of straight marriage?  I’m an escort for fucksake.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not going to sit here and criticise people for what they do in their bedroom.  I do not care what goes on, how many escorts you see, how many affairs you’ve had – this is YOUR BUSINESS.  And getting married is theirs. (continue reading…)

I thought that I would start working on my blog again by doing something I've wanted to do for awhile.  This is a guide to meeting me for the first time, call it a visit prep if you will.  This is for those who have completed screening ONLY.  To request the password please email me [...]

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I often get asked by clients about “things I’ve seen” at work. Weird things, sexual things, interesting things, good things – you name it, people want to know. So without compromising anyone’s privacy, I thought I would make a nice little write-up of “things I’ve seen” since becoming an escort. The good, the bad, and the ugly – as the title states. These are in no particular order.

1.  Man Money on fire.


I’d heard the phrase burning money before but this is a new one…

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I’ve been on a guide writing kick recently, for some reason.  It may be since I’m laying around recovering from surgery (I’m fine, it was elective and minor!) but I had an interest in writing this for awhile.

I asked the help of other providers, and as such I will be putting their banners at the bottom of this entry.  Make sure to click the more link to see some of extremely sexy ladies who helped make this guide possible.

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I got this question the other day, from someone new to seeing providers.  We talked about this subject at great length and the conversation has inspired me to write a blog entry.

At first, I was going to password protect this post to men and providers but realised that if an angry wife found this blog and wanted to read this, it’s really not that hard to pretend to be a man.

So how do you see providers and not ruin your life?  It’s really not all that hard.  It requires thinking and being one step ahead.  Paranoia and guilt are the enemy.  If you feel paranoid or guilty, you might want to re-think whether or not this is something you really should be doing.

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This post is inspired by a recent review I read where the reviewer noted that the woman he saw (self-identified as a courtesan) talked through a good bit of his half hour session and he was bothered by that.

I saw this as a good opportunity to write a post on the differences between courtesans and escorts.  While they are part of the same field, they are not the same.  You could liken this to a surgeon not being the same as an obstetrician.  They are both doctors, but they specialise in different aspects of their field.

Let me start by saying that one is not better than the other.  The two are different and it really just comes down to “Different strokes for different folks”.

Fundamental Differences
An escort will often greet a client with a kiss, and some minor chit chat will ensue.  Normally, it won’t be much and they will get right down to business.  This chat may even occur while the client undresses, sets down his donation, and moves to the bed.  There will be some superficial connection, but what it comes down to is a the client being happy with what he sees.  Usually not much on the personal level.  An escort will focus on physically pleasuring the client ot his hearts content.

Afterward, there will usually be a bit more conversation leading up to either another shot or the end of the session.  Some do not stay the remainder of the duration.  The average booking is between 30 minutes and 2 hours.

Escorts are perfect for clients who:

• Is looking for a quickie
• Is looking for the fantasy situation of showing up, fucking, and leaving
• Want absolute “no strings attached” sex where emotions do not come into play at all
• Are hobbyists

Courtesans, on the other hand, tend to focus on the mind first and body later.  A courtesan may have wine, sparkling water, or even a fruit tray available to share at the beginning of the appointment.  Often the first portion of the appointment is spent talking – usually about his life (without going into TOO much detail of course), her past/background/education, current events, politics, or anything else that may come up.  Courtesans more often than not hold a degree, or are in the end stages working on one.¹  Many clients who hire courtesans will talk to them about their life and problems, hoping for the point of view of an uninvolved party.  Or even just an ear to listen, or shoulder to cry on.

When the courtesan feels a good connection has formed, she will progress the visit into the bedroom.  Afterwards, there’s usually a continuation of an earlier conversation and perhaps more activities if the mood is right.  Courtesans focus on both mental and physical stimulation under the belief that a psychological release can lead to a better physical one.  Also they feel the more comfortable the client is, the more open he can be behind closed doors enabling him to act out all of his deepest fantasies.

Courtesans are perfect for clients who:

• Desire a connection before intercourse
• Want to spend a longer period of time with the courtesan
• Need someone to talk to, whether on a casual level or deeper one
• Also subscribe to the belief that an emotional release first makes the physical release better

Price and Time Differences
While many escorts will offer half hour bookings, the average courtesan starts around 1 or 2 hours.

The reason for this isn’t because the courtesan wants more money, or is greedy – but because you cannot make the desired connection in 30 minutes AND allow time for the physical release.  You would use up the vast majority of the time (if not all of it) outside of the bedroom making the connection.

This does mean if you wish to see a courtesan, you will need more time and money.  There is an upside to this though.  Most escorts will allow you to book 30 min-4 hours, however the rates will simply be the 1 hour rate multiplied by the amount of hours, with the exception of 30 minutes (which usually is 2/3 the 1 hour rate).  Courtesans will often offer multi-hour discount.  I’ll use my own rates as an example.

My rate table when I was an escort:
$200/30 minutes
$250/1 hour
$375/1.5 hours
$500/2 hours
$750/3 hours
$1000/4 hours

My rate table as a courtesan:
$300/45 minutes (available for regulars only)
$350/1 hour
$500/1.5 hours
$650/2 hours
$900/3 hours
$1200/4 hours

As a courtesan, clients who book longer sessions are more often than not looking for the companionship aspect which is something I am more than happy to provide for hours at a time with a bit of fun mixed in.  With escorting, it’s a lot more physically demanding which is why I did not offer the same discounts.

I can see why the client who wrote that review was bothered.  Unfortunately the true differences between what escorts and courtesans are really aren’t that well known.  Most people probably just think “courtesan” is a good way to slap a higher price tag on the same product.  Unfortunately, as this client found out, that is not the case at all.  I say “unfortunately” because the client ended up unsatisfied, which is something that both escorts and courtesans would see as unfortunate.

In the end we’re all in the business of pleasure and satisfaction, and we’re all disappointed in ourselves when we don’t give it.

1. This does not mean escorts do not or cannot have degrees.  Many do!  And many are brilliant women.  What I’m simply saying is that a solid education is a requirement of being a courtesan due to the clientele you draw [↩]

5.  It’s not only incredibly selfish, it’s bad karma not to pay taxes
While I feel this is pretty self-explanatory, it’s worth mentioning.  Treat others as you wish to be treated.  While you may not like your government/country, does that make it right to steal from them?

4.  Not paying taxes carries some pretty harsh penalties
Morality aside, do you REALLY want to pay fines, penalties, have a felony conviction on your record, and possibly go to jail over it?

Assuming you are a single person with no dependents and you make 85,000/year you owe about 14,000.  Yes, it’s a nice chunk of change…but if you don’t pay that 14,000 do you know what can happen to you?  From here:

– Late Filing Penalties
If you owe tax and don’t file on time, according to IRS regulations, penalties are assessed and added to your bill. Penalties are in addition to BOTH the tax due and the interest on the past due tax. The total late–filing penalty is usually 5% of the tax owed for each month, or part of a month, that your return is late up to five months (25%).If your return is over 60 days late, the minimum penalty for late filing is the smaller of $100 or 100 percent of the tax owed.
– Late Payment Penalties

If you file on time but don’t pay all amounts due on time, you’ll generally have to pay a late payment penalty of one–half of one percent (0.5%) of the actual tax owed for each month, or part of a month, that the tax remains unpaid from the due date, until the tax is paid in full. There is no maximum limit to the failure-to-pay penalty.
Interest Charges

The IRS will charge interest on late or unpaid taxes, regardless of cause. The period covered always begins with the due date of the return, and ends with the receipt of payment by the IRS. You may incur interest expenses for late filing, or simply for making a mathematical error on your tax return.

Generally, interest is charged on any unpaid tax from the due date of the return until the date of payment. The interest rate on unpaid Federal tax is determined and posted every three months. It is the federal short–term interest rate plus 3 percent. Interest is compounded daily.

But that’s not all.  In addition to this, there are fines and potential jail sentences if you are caught.  They will audit you and tear your finances apart until they are satisfied.  The penalties are similar in Canada, albeit a little less cutthroat.

3.  The IRS is not someone you want in your life

If there is one thing the tragedy of Joseph Stack has proven, it’s that you really don’t want the IRS in your business day after day, year after year.  While his case was extreme, it does happen.  If you fall victim to a random audit and you haven’t been paying your taxes, for lack of a better term you’re fucked.  Revenue Canada is no better.  They will hound you until they get what you owe.

2.  Not paying taxes is stealing from your local area
This goes double if you live in a country such as Canada, where your taxes actually go to social programs.  When you don’t pay your taxes, you are depriving important services (such as fire and police) funding.  You are stealing from schools, parks, roads, and in certain cases (i.e. Canada) health care.

1.  You use the things taxes pay for every day of your life
The things listed in #2 are things most people use on a regular basis.  You count on the police to keep you safe, firefighters to put out your house if it goes up.  You drive on roads, you visit parks, you went to school.  Why on earth should everyone pay for that except you?  You are not above paying for this. This is especially true, once again, in Canada where your healthcare is paid for by taxes.  When you do not pay your taxes, the healthcare system suffers. 

What makes you feel so entitled that you should get something for nothing when everyone else has to pay?

After Alexa’s wonderful entry, I realised how different our client profiles were and thought I would also do an entry on mine. The one thing Alexa and I have in common is that we both don’t have the “typical” clients.

Alexa states: The average client for most escorts (in the US) is a white male, in his mid-40s, and rather vanilla in his preferences.
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