Courtesans and Escorts…what’s the difference?
by Missy on Feb.22, 2010, under Entries
This post is inspired by a recent review I read where the reviewer noted that the woman he saw (self-identified as a courtesan) talked through a good bit of his half hour session and he was bothered by that.
I saw this as a good opportunity to write a post on the differences between courtesans and escorts. While they are part of the same field, they are not the same. You could liken this to a surgeon not being the same as an obstetrician. They are both doctors, but they specialise in different aspects of their field.
Let me start by saying that one is not better than the other. The two are different and it really just comes down to “Different strokes for different folks”.
Fundamental Differences
An escort will often greet a client with a kiss, and some minor chit chat will ensue. Normally, it won’t be much and they will get right down to business. This chat may even occur while the client undresses, sets down his donation, and moves to the bed. There will be some superficial connection, but what it comes down to is a the client being happy with what he sees. Usually not much on the personal level. An escort will focus on physically pleasuring the client ot his hearts content.
Afterward, there will usually be a bit more conversation leading up to either another shot or the end of the session. Some do not stay the remainder of the duration. The average booking is between 30 minutes and 2 hours.
Escorts are perfect for clients who:
- Is looking for a quickie
- Is looking for the fantasy situation of showing up, fucking, and leaving
- Want absolute “no strings attached” sex where emotions do not come into play at all
- Are hobbyists
Courtesans, on the other hand, tend to focus on the mind first and body later. A courtesan may have wine, sparkling water, or even a fruit tray available to share at the beginning of the appointment. Often the first portion of the appointment is spent talking – usually about his life (without going into TOO much detail of course), her past/background/education, current events, politics, or anything else that may come up. Courtesans more often than not hold a degree, or are in the end stages working on one.1 Many clients who hire courtesans will talk to them about their life and problems, hoping for the point of view of an uninvolved party. Or even just an ear to listen, or shoulder to cry on.
When the courtesan feels a good connection has formed, she will progress the visit into the bedroom. Afterwards, there’s usually a continuation of an earlier conversation and perhaps more activities if the mood is right. Courtesans focus on both mental and physical stimulation under the belief that a psychological release can lead to a better physical one. Also they feel the more comfortable the client is, the more open he can be behind closed doors enabling him to act out all of his deepest fantasies.
Courtesans are perfect for clients who:
- Desire a connection before intercourse
- Want to spend a longer period of time with the courtesan
- Need someone to talk to, whether on a casual level or deeper one
- Also subscribe to the belief that an emotional release first makes the physical release better
Price and Time Differences
While many escorts will offer half hour bookings, the average courtesan starts around 1 or 2 hours.
The reason for this isn’t because the courtesan wants more money, or is greedy – but because you cannot make the desired connection in 30 minutes AND allow time for the physical release. You would use up the vast majority of the time (if not all of it) outside of the bedroom making the connection.
This does mean if you wish to see a courtesan, you will need more time and money. There is an upside to this though. Most escorts will allow you to book 30 min-4 hours, however the rates will simply be the 1 hour rate multiplied by the amount of hours, with the exception of 30 minutes (which usually is 2/3 the 1 hour rate). Courtesans will often offer multi-hour discount. I’ll use my own rates as an example.
My rate table when I was an escort:
$200/30 minutes
$250/1 hour
$375/1.5 hours
$500/2 hours
$750/3 hours
$1000/4 hours
My rate table as a courtesan:
$300/45 minutes (available for regulars only)
$350/1 hour
$500/1.5 hours
$650/2 hours
$900/3 hours
$1200/4 hours
As a courtesan, clients who book longer sessions are more often than not looking for the companionship aspect which is something I am more than happy to provide for hours at a time with a bit of fun mixed in. With escorting, it’s a lot more physically demanding which is why I did not offer the same discounts.
I can see why the client who wrote that review was bothered. Unfortunately the true differences between what escorts and courtesans are really aren’t that well known. Most people probably just think “courtesan” is a good way to slap a higher price tag on the same product. Unfortunately, as this client found out, that is not the case at all. I say “unfortunately” because the client ended up unsatisfied, which is something that both escorts and courtesans would see as unfortunate.
In the end we’re all in the business of pleasure and satisfaction, and we’re all disappointed in ourselves when we don’t give it.
- This does not mean escorts do not or cannot have degrees. Many do! And many are brilliant women. What I’m simply saying is that a solid education is a requirement of being a courtesan due to the clientele you draw [↩]
April 7th, 2010 on 23:26
At my strip club, we offer lapdances – they are cheap and quick, but also VIP rooms – chatting, dancing and drinking in privacy for a minimum of half an hour.
I will be memorising bits of your post for a few tips for my sales pitch nexct time a customer asks ‘whats so special about the VIP?’
Even though most guys think they primarily came in to look at sexy naked women, once they find a stripper they can talk and connect too, they are much happier.
April 3rd, 2010 on 22:15
Great post!
Lines between a high level escort and a courtesan can get a bit blurry at times. You are absolutely correct in pointing out that having wrong expectations can ruin experience for both parties.
Similar to you, I started as escort and pretty soon it became obvious to me that I am much better at being a Courtesan than Escort.
Lina
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February 23rd, 2010 on 18:57
Unfortunately if they do not identify themselves that way, booking an appointment is the only way to go.
Usually reviews will give a pretty good tip off, guys will mention if a girl is “too chatty” more often than not.
February 22nd, 2010 on 17:46
But no one (or very few) women call themselves courtesans so how do you tell the difference from their websites?