Archive for October 12th, 2009
Better Late Than Never – My Coming Out Story
by Missy on Oct.12, 2009, under Entries
I really wanted to post this yesterday, in honour of National Coming Out Day however I am on a mini-vay1 and I am doing quasi-vacation like things. Like taking as many naps as I want, drawing, and otherwise relaxing.
This entry is extremely long, and extremely personal. Probably one of the most revealing things I’ve ever written about myself. If you can sit through the whole thing, I think you’ll see me in a completely different light.
There are tons of footnotes in this entry, mostly because I do not want to abuse parenthesis and brackets. You’ve been forewarned.
I am bisexual. I am not a “proud” bisexual, but I am bisexual. Before you start pelting me with rotted fruit or lit torches, let me explain why.
I do not believe that I was ever straight. Being bisexual is all I’ve ever known. And just like (most) straight people are not specifically proud of being straight, I am not specifically proud of being bisexual. It’s all I’ve ever known. I am no more proud of being bisexual than I am having freckles, or small hands. It’s just a part of who I am. And while I am proud of myself AS A WHOLE, I am not proud of individual aspects of my being. Much like I love having black eyes, I also love being bisexual. I just find proud to be the wrong adjective.
That being said…
- I got that term from a book about 15 years ago, started using it, but I’ll be damned if I can remember what book it was [↩]
